From Then to Now: How Childhood Trauma Impacts Adult Relationships (Copy)

Our earliest relationships shape the way we view ourselves, others, and the world around us. If you experienced trauma in childhood—whether emotional neglect, abuse, or inconsistent caregiving—it may still be echoing in your adult relationships today. The good news? Healing is possible.

Why Childhood Trauma Still Matters
Shapes Attachment Styles
Childhood trauma can lead to insecure attachment patterns, making trust, intimacy, or emotional regulation more difficult in adult relationships.
Affects Self-Worth
When your needs weren’t met as a child, you might struggle with feelings of inadequacy or fear of abandonment as an adult.
Triggers Emotional Reactivity
Unresolved trauma can cause heightened sensitivity, anxiety, or shutting down during conflict—often without fully understanding why.
Ways to Begin Healing
Recognize Patterns – Notice if you’re replaying old dynamics (like people-pleasing or avoiding closeness). Awareness is the first step toward change.
Practice Self-Compassion – You’re not “too sensitive” or “broken.” You’re responding to deep, unmet needs. Be gentle with yourself.
Seek Trauma-Informed Therapy – Working with a therapist trained in trauma can help you process past wounds and build healthier, more secure connections.

Podcast Recommendation

The Holistic Psychologist Podcast – Real talk on trauma, inner child healing, and breaking unhealthy patterns in relationships.

At Helen’s Project, we believe your past doesn’t have to define your future. Our trauma-informed therapists are here to support your healing journey, helping you create the kind of relationships you deserve.

Have you noticed childhood wounds affecting your relationships? Share your story in the comments, or reach out to us for support. You don’t have to unpack it alone.

Kayla Mainja, LCSW

founded Helen’s Project to bridge mental health gaps in BIPOC communities. Her mission centers on inclusive, compassionate care that empowers individuals to heal and thrive. Ready to take the next step in your wellness journey? Book a session with Kayla today.

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